Guilty Snitch: Well, butter my biscuits, you certainly got yourself into quite the pickle! But let me start by saying that I’m sorry to hear about the hefty bowl of guilt you’re swallowing now. Acting on impulse may have resulted in Ripley’s Believe-it-or-not kind of consequences, but the work to clean up this mess is now on you. If there was an apology big enough to heal that heartbroken lady, I’d ask you to write it in the sky, but alas, there isn’t.
No matter how much you want to shake her hand and apologize, she’s got her “do not disturb” sign up, and you should respect it. Contact with the unfaithful hubby? Forget about it. Don’t be a fly on their chaotic wall – give them the gift of your absence. Honestly, if Coca-Cola can go from “New Coke” back to “Coca-Cola Classic,” who’s to say their marriage can’t make an epic rebound? Block ’em both, and send any lingering guilt to therapy.
Cue flashback: Years ago, I fell head over heels for a Casanova in a foreign land. My heart shattered like Humpty Dumpty when I found out he was planning a wedding with another woman back home. I mulled over spilling the beans, but figured maybe he’d tie the knot and become a one-woman man. Turns out, the man ended up ditching his wife for another gal he fancied. Was I right to bite my tongue or should I have warned her? Perhaps, just like how a broken watch can still show the correct time twice a day, you’ve done this woman a favor she doesn’t know about yet.
While that may be the silver lining in this storm cloud of a tale, it doesn’t leave you off the hook for some self-examination. Learn from this, vow never again to meddle in someone else’s business out of anger, and remember: You become the wolf you feed.
Guilty Snitch: Now, listen here. Your options were plenty, but you chose the one surefire way to cause a ruckus like a bull in a china shop. So now what do you do? You leave the man and the woman be. Don’t fan the flames of her misery, and don’t be the Marie Kondo to someone else’s relationship.
One way to deal with regret is stepping back and thinking it over with less emotion, sort of like a heartbroken Sherlock Holmes. Set the scene for a moment of calm reflection, perhaps with a playlist of mood-matching tunes that slowly wind down to tranquility. Use that zen state to assess what happened and find some self-compassion.
From my bird’s-eye view, this cheating fella handpicked you, potentially because you were an easy mark, to betray his wife and child. Yeah, you played a part in unveiling his dishonesty, but the cracks in that picture-perfect Insta-life were there long before you arrived on the scene. Just remember, behind those carefully curated snapshots, there’s always a hidden story.
