So, you hate your daughter-in-law’s taste in art, music, and literature – bummer. And on top of that, she’s pretty darn insecure around you, despite all your efforts to make her feel at home. But now, the cherry on top – she got an ugly and badly done tattoo! What are you supposed to do now?! Well, first of all, don’t say anything about the tattoo unless she brings it up. And if she does, just ask her the story behind it. People get tattoos for a reason, and it’s not to impress the likes of you. Your job is to listen, notice, understand, and maybe even appreciate her self-expression. Whoa, who knew being a supportive in-law could be so hard?
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Now, let’s talk about taste. Listen, tastes aren’t set in stone. People change and evolve all the time, even when it comes to things like music or TV shows. Remember that one song you played on repeat for months and nobody could stand to be around you? Yeah, we’ve all been there. So, instead of going crazy or quarantining yourself every time your daughter-in-law likes something you don’t, try to find some common ground. Who knows, you might actually find something to like about that band or that book she’s into. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.

Hey, wait a minute, are you lowkey dissing your daughter-in-law? That’s not cool, man. She doesn’t need your approval or your opinions about her tattoos, her clothes, or anything else. What she needs is for you to welcome her into your family and show her some love. Maybe her lack of confidence has more to do with how you treat her than anything else. So, check yourself before you wreck yourself, ok?

And finally, to our heartbroken reader, we feel for you, friend. Losing a best friend of over 50 years is like a death, and it’s painful AF. But here’s the thing – you can’t control other people’s feelings or actions. All you can do is take care of yourself and acknowledge your feelings. Give yourself permission to grieve and maybe even plan a ceremony or a ritual to honor your friendship. It won’t bring your friend back, but it might help you find some closure. Sending you hugs from a safe distance.

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